One
day, my brother asked me once, “You don’t mind if your boyfriend doesn’t come
once a week right”. Well, I did not answer with a yes or no; rather I say “If
he cannot make an effort to spend time with each other, don’t blame the one who
is willing to”. I have stood in the middle of someone’s else love story
before and even though I knew it was morally wrong, I didn’t understand why I crave
for that no-string attached relationship back then. Maybe I was young and
wanted no attachment. Or I wanted to be that carefree girl who is cool and
experience different things.
It
isn’t that there are no nice single guys in the picture, I just wasn’t built to
be in a relationship back then. And because I knew it was morally wrong to go on
dates with unavailable people, I kept myself at a safe distance to develop
feelings further. Until lately, I’m starting to think from a cheater perspective.
Why do couples cheat after being in a committed relationship. One thing for
sure is cheating doesn’t happen in happy relationships. And it has
nothing to do with looks, sex, or anything in between.
It’s
when the relationship starts being taken for granted, it’s when everything goes
with, I thought you knew. It’s when priority change, it’s when your
partner starts to feel unappreciated, unheard, uncared for. It’s when you start
focusing on the bad. It’s when you’re unhappy in relationships. It’s when you
no longer look forward for dates, the kisses, the touch. Everything about it
just makes the body tremble. Because your body knows you deserve better, your
body craves the touch of someone who genuinely care, who genuinely wants all of
you and not just out of convenience.
And just
because you’re the last person that lights the fire doesn’t make you the
cheater. Because for anything it should be named after, it should be anything
but cheater. I hope we are all genuinely happy whether we’re single
and/or in a relationship.