Even
though I do not have the best relationship with my family, I’m still always
grateful for my life. Not because everything went the way I wanted, but because
along the journey, I was blessed with people who showed up for me. People who
offered a helping hand when I needed one, celebrated my wins, sat with me
through difficult days, and reminded me that love comes in many forms. I’ve
never felt deprived of love.
Yet
one question seems to follow me wherever I go. Why are you still single? People
are always trying to introduce me to someone. A friend’s colleague. A cousin’s
friend. Someone they think would be a good match. And one day, a friend laughed
and said, “the problem is, you’ve living too good of a life”. At first,
I laughed too. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized he was
right.
I
don’t spend my days waiting for someone to text me back. I don’t need
permission to book a flight, attend an event, watch the sunrise, read a book in
a quiet corner, or spend an evening exactly how I want to. I’ve worked hard to
build a life that gives me freedom, peace and joy. My standards are high, not
because I’m difficult, but because I’ve learned what a good life feels like. And
perhaps that’s why I’ve remained single for so long. Not because I was
looking for perfection. But because a relationship has never been the goal. The
goal has always been a beautiful life.
So
if someone chooses to walk into my life, let them bring more understanding, not
more confusion. More respect, not more criticism. More peace, not more chaos. More
laughter, not more tears. Because when your life is already full, love is no
longer about filling a void. It’s about adding something beautiful to what
already exists. And that’s why, if love ever finds me, let it be a
complement to my life, not a condemnation of what has already been built.