REALITY / REE . AL . I . TEE /: 1. REALITY IS THE CONJECTURED STATE OF THINGS AS THEY ACTUALLY EXISIT, RATHER THAN AS THEY MAY APPEAR OR MIGHT BE IMAGINED. 2. IN A WIDER DEFINITION, REALITY INCLUDES EVERYTHING THAT IS AND HAS BEEN, WHETHER OR NOT IT IS OBSERVABLE OR COMPREHENSIBLE. 3. A STILL MORE BROAD DEFINITION INCLUDES EVERYTHING THAT HAS EXISTED, EXISTS OR WILL EXIST.Have you met a friend or relative or is it yourself that you once felt rejoiced and celebrated with all your friends that you have finally graduated with a degree but still feel that you are not ready to get on the battlefield. You put on the suit and step into the corporate world, and few months later, you feel like getting yourself a master or PhD.
Studying to me feels like a baby in the mother’s womb, you were taught, nutured, and ensure that everything is right before being born into the reality. Similar as to the baby in mother’s womb as to studying, the mother’s womb provides insulation against external agents, light and sound, and particularly protects the baby against shock and pressure. Located in the pelvic cavity, the womb is well protected by the thick and strong bones that surround endometrium’ on the inside, helping bear the weight of the embryo until the baby is being deliver. Just like we were taught on all the different subjects until we are ready to meet the requirements out there. The structures are made up of powerful ideally constructed growth and development just like for a baby in the mother’s womb and preparing a human being into the reality.
However, studying has lose the right purpose out of it, studying now to students is due to the sake of studying. Do you know the purpose of kindergarten? Do you know the purpose of elementary school? Do you know the purpose of middle school? Do you know the purpose of high school? Do you know the purpose of college? Do you know the purpose of university? Do you know the purpose of taking a master?
When you were 2, you were too young to know why you were force to wake up early every morning to play in school where you can do the same at home. Then, again, you were too young to know which “good” elementary school you are studying at but parents think the more homework the better the education. When you start to realize the things around you, you continue to walk the path blindlessly throughout middle school and graduated high school in majoring science even though you or more than half of your friends and/or classmates aren’t going to do medicine for college, university or even master?
To prove that you are a good student, you show your flexibility of being able to major on something totally different from your high school where you might or might not be able to choose your college course, depending on your parents and their financial support. As soon as college life ends in the short period of one to two years, you might not still be ready to face reality, so you followed blindly with your classmates into university for another 4 years. Four years is a great way to delay yourself into reality, but finally after 20 years of nuturing a child from school they still think they are not ready to face the reality, after a few months, they want to further complete a master and by then you’re more likely to be around your mid-twenties or some might even be at their late twenties.
One thing that you should know is as human we seem to have an infinite capacity to live in denial. Whilst denial is a commonly used copying mechanism, it’s deadly for human being. Surprisingly, it’s common to find people living in denial, failing to face a threatening shift in reality, changing workplace or changing of your comfort zone. Unfortunately many people ignore or deny their new reality, hoping that it will somehow disappear or that someone will come up with a magical solution. I was one of those Disney fan that love Peter Pan throughout my childhood and now, that “Never Grow Up” was my favorite quote and lifestyle, being the lost boys were basically my dream, and I was once ask “What would you do if you get to go to Neverland”. “Never never come back!” Unexpectedly or surprisingly, I was the first one among my group of my friends that step into reality, basically because I am 5 years elder than the youngest one in the group, I started describing the reality about how “life sucks” to them, where they are all still busy enjoying high school and/or college and thought I was some pessimist.
Coming into full empowerment requires looking at our relationship with our mothers’ and having the courage to separate out our own individual beliefs, values, thoughts from hers. It requires feeling the grief of having to witness the pain our mothers endured and processing our own legitimate pain that we endured as a result. This is so challenging but it is the beginning of real freedom. Again, if you have a closer look, I have already survived for more than 5 years in the “reality” and doing better than my studies, I called that “University of Society”.
“If you can’t go back to your mother’s womb, you’d better learn to be a good fighter.” Because you wouldn’t come out from your mother’s womb then turn back after seeing what the reality is made of, even though you might wish to but you can’t, just like you shouldn’t be returning back to school with an “escape of reality” excuse. Life is very contradicting, the world is a very beautiful place yet how reality depress you, but take some time to experience a lil’ longer, you will find things that you less unexpected.
FACE REALITY AS IT IS, NOT AS IT WAS OR AS YOU WISH IT TO BE.