When I was 20 and still single, someone told me I've to have my heart broken to grow; and only this way we learn how to survive, and most importantly, understand that "life goes on". I totally didn't agree on it, and with the naive self, I still believed that love was a forever thing that if we've chose to love twice, we've never love at all. I believed that! But I was wrong.
But I'm sure thankful for the person who broke my heart.
Because I am stronger than I thought I could be. Isn't it weird that heartbreak is emotional yet it felt physical. You felt that someone actually physically ripped your heart out of your chest and you just felt empty all the time. You feel like you were just swallowed into the belly of darkness and that there is no foreseeable escape - that is, until something changes, and you find your way out. Or that moment when you finally realized that you shouldn't just cry over your loss, so you stood up straight and got over it. Sometimes, you need a few round to really get over it, but the first step towards it has made you stronger that you think you were!
Because you thought that was love. The heart-wrenching realization that you had what all the lyrics and movies talk about, that fear that you'll never get another chance. It's when you least expect it that you meet someone new, and it does happen again. And that doesn't mean that you don't know how to love, it's just that these experience will shape you to who you need to be in the near future.
Because life goes on... When your heart smashes into a million pieces by the one person you allowed yourself to trust with it, your entire world pauses. Time freezes, and you're stuck in this dark, awful place. Heartbreak teaches that your life still goes on, your friends are still there, your family is still there, your work still need to go on. Just allowed yourself to have a few down moments, because, hey, we really did love right! But the whole world has experience this, cause eventually you'll not cry that hard next year because life moves on.
Because you know you deserve better. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is also totally and completely blind. Love is so blind that it can make everything dark. But when you fall out of love, you see your relationship for what it really was. Sometimes, it's not always because of being cheated, but you will see what your relationship was lacking. You learn that you deserve better and being treat the right way.
Because you were once together. Heartbreak is the result of true love. Because only the one closest to your heart can hurt you. Imagine someone on street randomly come to you and say "you're ugly", you probably might think he's crazy because you don't even know him. But imagine your boyfriend didn't compliment you on your favourite dress, you might start to wonder if he's even aware of you.
But when you get over your heartbreak, it's like a weird dream that you for some reason still vaguely remember. Still, it was there. And you have the person who broke your heart to thank.