Maybe you knew her through a friend. Maybe you knew him online. How we first met doesn't matter, because fundamentally it's the same thing. We catches each other eyes and started texting. Conversations flow naturally. The first date is exactly how you envisioned it to be - wonderful and not one bit awkward. We wonder why we never met earlier. All of a sudden, hope is restored. Maybe he's the right boy. Maybe he thinks I'm the right girl.
Finally, you wake up looking forward to morning text messages. Finally, you have a special someone to brunch with. Yet just as things seem to be going right, things take a turn south. The texting becomes less affectionate. The outings become less frequent. At the back of your mind, you know something is amiss but you delay asking what's wrong. After all, you don't want to appear too eager and life is busy, as is. Yet without you realizing, you find out that is has been weeks. By then, you figure maybe he's not as right as you imagined to be. And so you move on.
Welcome to the modern dating scene. These people we date, the 'More-than-friends-not-yet-our-lovers', they're neither Youth, Love, Pleasure nor Marriage. While there were fond memories, they're just faded, transition moments. They're like the grey area, the spaces that fall in between. I don't know how long more this cycle is going to take, because you felt like he should be offering for Valentine's but he didn't and someone else came along and buy you a ticket for Valentine's dinner.
Maybe I should go, maybe he will ask. At the back of our minds, we know nothing is wrong and we convince ourselves nothing is wrong too. But unlike falling in love, there's no falling out with Love.
Originally written: February 5, 2015
Welcome to the modern dating scene. These people we date, the 'More-than-friends-not-yet-our-lovers', they're neither Youth, Love, Pleasure nor Marriage. While there were fond memories, they're just faded, transition moments. They're like the grey area, the spaces that fall in between. I don't know how long more this cycle is going to take, because you felt like he should be offering for Valentine's but he didn't and someone else came along and buy you a ticket for Valentine's dinner.
Maybe I should go, maybe he will ask. At the back of our minds, we know nothing is wrong and we convince ourselves nothing is wrong too. But unlike falling in love, there's no falling out with Love.
Originally written: February 5, 2015