We are the Generation That Doesn’t Want Relationships

“๐“˜๐“ฝ ๐“ฒ๐“ผ ๐“น๐“ธ๐“ผ๐“ผ๐“ฒ๐“ซ๐“ต๐“ฎ ๐“ฝ๐“ฑ๐“ช๐“ฝ ๐”‚๐“ธ๐“พ ๐“ฑ๐“ช๐“ฟ๐“ฎ๐“ท’๐“ฝ ๐“ฐ๐“ฒ๐“ฟ๐“ฎ๐“ท ๐”‚๐“ธ๐“พ๐“ป๐“ผ๐“ฎ๐“ต๐“ฏ ๐“ธ๐“ฟ๐“ฎ๐“ป ๐“ฝ๐“ธ ๐“ช ๐“น๐“ช๐“ป๐“ฝ๐“ฒ๐“ฌ๐“พ๐“ต๐“ช๐“ป ๐“ป๐“ฎ๐“ต๐“ช๐“ฝ๐“ฒ๐“ธ๐“ท๐“ผ๐“ฑ๐“ฒ๐“น ๐“ฒ๐“ท ๐”‚๐“ธ๐“พ๐“ป ๐“ต๐“ฒ๐“ฏ๐“ฎ. ๐“Ÿ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ฑ๐“ช๐“น๐“ผ ๐”‚๐“ธ๐“พ ๐“ช๐“ป๐“ฎ ๐“ด๐“ฎ๐“ฎ๐“น๐“ฒ๐“ท๐“ฐ ๐“ช ๐“ฌ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ฝ๐“ช๐“ฒ๐“ท ๐“น๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ผ๐“ธ๐“ท ๐“ช๐“ฝ ๐“ช๐“ป๐“ถ’๐“ผ ๐“ต๐“ฎ๐“ท๐“ฐ๐“ฝ๐“ฑ ๐“ฒ๐“ท ๐“ธ๐“ป๐“ญ๐“ฎ๐“ป ๐“ฝ๐“ธ ๐“น๐“ป๐“ธ๐“ฝ๐“ฎ๐“ฌ๐“ฝ ๐”‚๐“ธ๐“พ๐“ป๐“ผ๐“ฎ๐“ต๐“ฏ ๐“ฏ๐“ป๐“ธ๐“ถ ๐“ฐ๐“ฎ๐“ฝ๐“ฝ๐“ฒ๐“ท๐“ฐ ๐“ฑ๐“พ๐“ป๐“ฝ.

Accurate. I still find myself snucking him behind my busy schedule and he seem okay with it, he did not try to date me and I never asked. I sometimes wonder if I should start labeling this friendship, but I don’t know what are we and what we are not. And maybe you were exactly like me who are the generation who doesn’t want a relationship.

We spend days, weeks, months and years chatting about everything and nothing; and we video call more time than we meet up in person throughout the year; yet we are not committed in a relationship. We “talk” and text, we catch movies and go for food hunting – anything to avoid an actual date. We forgo any chance of achieving real connection. We want the facade of a relationship, but we don’t want the work of a relationship.

We want the hand holding without the eye contact,
the teasing without the serious conversations,
the promises without commitment,
the anniversaries without labels.

We want to connect – enough, but not too much.
We want to commit – a little, but not a lot.
We take it slow; we see where it goes, we don’t label things, we just hang out.

We keep our options open but the door close. We keep people at arm’s length – not willing to let someone close. And if they try to tear down the wall, we run, hide, leave, or ghost someone. There’s always another chance at finding love; there’s just such little chance of keeping it these days.

Because the problem with us not wanting relationships is that, at the end of the day, we actually do.