I
was having dinner with a friend when he suddenly asked me a question. What
are the criteria for your soulmate? There are 2 questions that can lead to inner
self. I laughed at first because it sounded like one of those awkward
question. But I answered anyway. I told him the first two things were wealth
mindset and a healthy lifestyle. Someone who understands growth,
discipline, ambition and also values taking care of themselves mentally and
physically.
Then
he asked for the third criteria. This time I paused a little longer. After
thinking for a while, I said respect and communication. Because no matter how
attractive someone is, if they cannot communicate honestly or respect your
feelings, the relationship slowly becomes exhausting instead of safe. We continued
talking after that, drifting into random stories, life experiences, business,
relationships and everything in between. I thought the conversation was over
until he suddenly looked at me again and asked one final question.
So, what’s
the fourth criteria? I remember squeezing my brain for an answer because by
then, I felt I had already listed all the important things. But after sitting
with the question for a while, I randomly say adventure and fun! Not
just traveling or doing exciting things, but experiencing life together.
Laughing at stupid moments. Trying random food places. Going for drives with no
destination. Building memories that feel alive. Because what’s the point of
building a beautiful life if you don’t genuinely enjoy living it together?
He pauses
for a moment and said, that’s what you deeply craved in a partner. Your
idea of love is not about survival. It’s not about just finding someone safe,
stable or dependable but also wanting joy too. You do not just want someone to
build a with, but someone who makes being alive feel lighter along the way.